Why Miscommunications Happen

People show their love through different ways by what they do and know. Let us say if a person loves receiving gifts they probably love giving them as well. Or if the person love doing things for others that means they love it when people do things for them. If a person likes hearing nice compliments and positive reinforcement, and appreciation from others, they would also do that to others too. Or if a person love physical touch, they would also give or show it to others as well.

If those reciprocation are not supported, then they will feel unloved and hurt. This is one of the fundamentals of human behavior that people keep missing out on because of the miss match and understanding.

I have been reading about Gary Chapman's book on the 5 languages of love and it totally made sense to me. It just does not touch on the couple's level but on all human interactions and relationships. I also believe that you can have more than one kind of love language but one could stand out more than others.

People automatically show their love by the way THEY LIKE IT but not ask how the other wants to be loved. It is a big mistake humans make all the time. Maybe this thinking is foreign to others and they don't know or even are aware of it. People love to assume. For those who got it, you can tell their relationships are pretty smooth and lovable. They got it down.

To those who has not, one needs to ask what the other wants and how to improve on the relationship. Again and again, I am seeing how right the bible is: Put others First before yourself. Love is not selfish, self first, not having an ego, and thinking about me, me and more me. If that is the case, than the relationship is only but a one way street.

Do nothing out of selfish ambition or vain conceit.
 Rather, in humility value others above yourselves,
not looking to your own interest but each of you to the
interests of the others. — Philippians 2: 3-4